One ugly truth about me is I’m a pretty competitive person. I reckon if someone else can do something, I can probably do that same thing, too. This thinking has led me to some amazing situations and jobs, but the dangerous thing about being competitive is if you compare yourself to others.
Doing so gets you into trouble and is apparently, a major source of unhappiness. In our wired world, it’s hard not feel, well, at least something when you’re bombarded with images of people FakeBooking all over social media.
The trick I’ve recently learned, is to recognize “that thing someone else has” as being nice or even desirable, but to consider if “it” really fits into your life. On this you have to be critical. Is this really a job, vacation or thing you want in your life right now? Because if you really, really wanted it, you could probably make it happen.
Here’s how it works. To have “that thing” like whats-her-name does, you’d have to put up with everything that goes along with it. Covet your neighbour’s fancy new car? Would you really want to have her dull (but well paying) job to pay for it? To live in that swish house your good friend has, you’d have to be married to her asshole of a husband and parent those brats. It’s kind of a fun game once you get the hang of it.
Now, I’m not nearly as envious of what other people have, because I don’t want everything that comes with it.
Am I alone here? Is anyone else guilty of comparing themselves to others? Do you have any advice you can share for how to get out of the habit?
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