The 5 Love Languages
You know when you keep hearing something over and over again until you take it as a sign you need to get on it? That’s how I was about the The Five Love Languages. A writer recommended the book to me last autumn, but I was like, the last thing I want to do is read (another) relationship book. Then the IBMer told me they have a cool quiz (I’m really into quizzes this week) for both couples and kids. Meaning: I didn’t need to buy and read the book, I could just take the quiz and have us all figured out. Score!
The basic premise is that each of us sees acts of love differently. You may think you’re showing love by complimenting your partner, but they may feel more loved and respond better with physical touch. Once you know your partner’s trigger, you can respond appropriately.
Before taking the quiz, I suspected my love language would be acts of service, because I’m all, what have you done for me, lately? I was right. Surprisingly, lurking right behind acts of service was a fondness for receiving gifts. Initially I felt a bit pretentious, but it is what it is. I guess I like being showered, man!
What amazed me was my daughter’s results. I knew touch wouldn’t be a big deal to her and it wasn’t. What was, which knocked my sox off, was how important spending time together as a family was. I assumed my only child was sick of spending time with her folks. I thought she’d be motivated by gifts. Nope! Apparently she’s into hanging out with us – at least until puberty.
If you’d like to discover your love language, you can take the quiz here. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Have you taken this quiz? Would you? Did the results surprise you?